Sunday, August 12, 2012

Commercial interruption of a frustrated heart

Working on Saturdays means that I get to spend time with my dad at my parents' house. And as usually, this is a double edged sword that can and will cut you with both edges, just because it can.

Two things that bother me the most about my parents:
1. They are not doing things on purpose. They really do not wish any ill on me. Bad things happen because they are just terrible money managers, ill educated and short-sighted on goals. I know a lot of you may think I'm blind or kidding myself, but if you can trust me, then do so on this one fact.
2. They absolutely refuse to change their ways. They refuse any guidance, will not yield to advice, and will not give up control so that at least someone else can fix their problems.

I've deleted the remaining of this post since it was a long, long rant about what of everything is wrong with this house, including but not limited to their lack of control over bills, their refusal to change, their refusal to ask for help, refusal to make younger siblings pay for their own bills (like portion of the phone and car insurance, gas, food and/or rent), refusal to make older brother pay for freaking diapers/food/daycare alternative (and baby #2 is due soon! That's twice the diapers my parents will have to pay out of their budget), etc. I am glad I only have to come to this house once a week. Any more time, and I am sure my nerves would be frayed. They are now, but let me just pretend this whole mess doesn't bother me as much. For the rest of Sunday, I will just continue looking at property values of houses I'd like to buy some day and call it a day. </rant>!

Have a good one! Cheers for a wonderful week ahead.


  1. Okay, but opening credit cards in your own child's name is a deliberate, malicious act. By maxing those out, your mother knew she was doing harm to you. There's just no way she didn't know that. Additionally, she has other children--she seems to have targeted you for this horrible act. I don't know how you've forgiven her for it. I can't even imagine. I don't even forgive my mom for stealing money and opening a library card in my name and never bringing back books so I had a bad library record. I can't even imagine.

    If it had just happened, I would have suggested changing your social so you wouldn't be responsible, but since you've already paid so much, it seems pointless to go to all that trouble. What a waste of money.

    Your parents really are terrible people. I know maybe I have no right to say that, but they treat you horribly. It's hard to realize that your parents aren't like other people's parents, but I no longer mourn not having a good mother. I just realized it was my card dealt and to deal with it. I try not to waste time envying people with amazing parents and I try to just keep moving.

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  3. A good Rant is therapuetic and way cheaper than Therapy... rant on! I can relate to how difficult it can be to help people who aren't yet ready to receive the help they so desperately need. And often, even if we could get them out of their present mess, if we don't get the mess out of them then they just tend to fall right back into it. I came over from another Blog where you had commented that we all know that 'Normal' is only a setting on the Dryer {or something like that}... LOVED THAT QUOTE and will probably steal... um, I mean borrow it now! *Winks*

    Blessings from the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian