I wasn't sure if I wanted to share this, because it both irritates me, shames me and saddens me, all in a same package with a bow on top! My family sure loves to include all sorts of fun emotions together.
About 2 weeks ago, my father calls me. Now, when my father calls me and mother is not home (she's out of the country again), it's usually not good. This time was no different. He asked me to take some vacation days, Oct 6-Oct 10 to go to California with him and my younger sibling.
Yeah. That again. One of my younger siblings just HAS to go somewhere, since they started working (and hence, making some money). She picked CA and booked her flight. And my dad's flight. My dad wants me to tag along. Other than the flight, nothing has been prepared (hotel, car, activities, meals, etc). Not to mention a airfare ticket there is over $380, plus about $80 for parking at the airport. So no, I am not going to CA. I didn't go to Chicago because the airfare was too high, why would I go on a whim to someplace I really have no true interest in, with such short notice?
I wont lie, though. I did think about it a lot. I could make it work and make the money back with my PT job and nobody would even know the money was gone. It pains me that my dad may be stuck there, and I know he'd like me to come along. We get along better, and have more similar interests. He's been wanting to have a family vacation for a while, but thus far, it's been individual vacations here and there. And as much as I'd want to and can make it work, it irritates me they do these things without thinking and try to guilt others into joining. I'll gladly wear my anti-social label, if that spares me from this drama.
Sure, money can be found. Time can be arranged. But it is only whimsical and a bit inconsiderate of my sister. Why choose a Sunday to a Thursday? Oh, that's right. Because she works odd days and hours. The rest of us work the regular Mon-Fri with additional weekends. It's not like any of us (most importantly, she does not) have extra money to spend. It irks me they go and almost impose on others these half-planned ideas.
I lied and said I couldn't get the time off (which is half true, since we're down one on a 4-person department, due to maternity leave). I haven't asked, and won't either. Though it'd be awesome, that money would be better left where it is and save for things that really matter. And I'd be a total PF hypocrite. That's sufficient enough "excuse" not to go.