tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post8430514374737419137..comments2024-03-01T03:28:55.901-05:00Comments on Working for a Goal: Lease end coming to an endTaniahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11075300256482920618noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post-60142663745390424022014-05-25T00:41:23.386-04:002014-05-25T00:41:23.386-04:00Nthing it--DO NOT move back in with your parents. ...Nthing it--DO NOT move back in with your parents. Your mother has caused enormous harm to you, both financially and emotionally. Is that really someone you want to live with?<br /><br />And I paid my own rent for the first time this past week--I feel so proud, even though I'm broke. Moving out on my own has been a positive experience so far. I'm actually MORE diligent now about managing my money than I was when I was living rent free.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post-9423853381908933512014-05-23T11:00:02.504-04:002014-05-23T11:00:02.504-04:00First I thought - oh no!! Don't go home!! But ...First I thought - oh no!! Don't go home!! But then I thought - gee, Tanner really has it all together these days and I trust that she will know what's best for her. Just because I'm 57 and still don't have my sh-t together doesn't mean that Tanner is the same. You really are WAY ahead of where I was at your age. Do what seem right to you - it wouldn't be the end of the world if it doesn't work out. I'm rooting for you :)Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02803104035204416080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post-27828862584572688752014-05-22T20:28:03.441-04:002014-05-22T20:28:03.441-04:00I hope so too. I wont hide the fact I wouldnt say ...I hope so too. I wont hide the fact I wouldnt say no to the opportunity to reopen channels of communications, but that's still in the dream stage. Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11075300256482920618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post-21973828369716184652014-05-22T20:22:10.646-04:002014-05-22T20:22:10.646-04:00Not sure staying longer will make me stay, truly. ...Not sure staying longer will make me stay, truly. If anything, it will make me go before I am ready, haha...Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11075300256482920618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post-49411953295255536012014-05-22T20:21:19.241-04:002014-05-22T20:21:19.241-04:00Do I want to? Not really. I would rather go back t...Do I want to? Not really. I would rather go back to my original arrangement of when I first moved out, but... it may stop being a choice. Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11075300256482920618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post-23872696471835676442014-05-22T20:20:50.429-04:002014-05-22T20:20:50.429-04:00I've been looking, but most will add both $200...I've been looking, but most will add both $200 and another 10-20 min to commute... I would consider a studio at the $600 range, but definitely not at the $700 + 35min commute. Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11075300256482920618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post-59520454441576164862014-05-22T20:19:56.605-04:002014-05-22T20:19:56.605-04:00Yeah, I'm definitely not a lease person!Yeah, I'm definitely not a lease person! Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11075300256482920618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post-46673005146710673942014-05-22T20:19:36.044-04:002014-05-22T20:19:36.044-04:00There's nobody left at the house except my dad...There's nobody left at the house except my dad, and when she returns, my mother. Everyone else is scattered to the wind. I'm not sure I'd think it as savings, but I am sure I could work something out if it's starting to be a strain... at best, I get cheaper food since I can use theirs, at worst, I'll be buying a good part of the bulk. Taniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11075300256482920618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post-53056547938464578312014-05-22T12:04:13.854-04:002014-05-22T12:04:13.854-04:00I haven't been following your blog enough to k...I haven't been following your blog enough to know all the back story. The one perk of moving in with your parents is you won't be stuck in a year Long lease. If it gets terrible at any time you can leave (pending you finding a new place). Good luck!Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02140101848088307943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post-71500156063291862332014-05-22T09:51:16.398-04:002014-05-22T09:51:16.398-04:00Perhaps if your mother stays away a really long ti...Perhaps if your mother stays away a really long time, and with one of your siblings(or was it two?)out of the house, perhaps the family dynamic has changed.<br />At any rate, you are a big girl and you KNOW the pitfalls ahead if you go ahead with this plan, so I think you'll be fine.<br /><br />I am even thinking this will save you $ in an unexpected way......since you are going to be paying rent, perhaps you can think of that money in your head as the extra $ you use to give them to bail them out all the time, even when you weren't living there. Between paying rent to someone else AND the $ you spent on your family, you may just actually come out ahead on that score....granted you don't get sucked into ALL their money woes and misbehavior with cash. lol<br />You still need to put your foot down and not let them take advantage of you, the "rich relative". lol<br /><br />If they start coming to you for every little money emergency with their hands out, be strong and tell them that you don't have it, since you are now having to pay more for commuting costs(which is true).<br /><br />You'll be fine, in that I have no doubt. 8-)slugmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12728856166374248591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post-59545536397337820362014-05-22T09:24:42.813-04:002014-05-22T09:24:42.813-04:00I'll throw in a vote that is different than an...I'll throw in a vote that is different than anyone else's so far. People grow and change as they get older, and getting along with the family may be easier than in the past. It's good to keep relationships with family members. I hope you are able to do this and save some money, which will get you better financial footing. Paying rent will make it very easy to say "no" to other financial requests. I hope this works out, and I hope you enjoy the time with family.444https://www.blogger.com/profile/18317761558076527630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post-86153837005213209432014-05-22T06:37:27.045-04:002014-05-22T06:37:27.045-04:00Tread carefully.....I think there is a HIGH potent...Tread carefully.....I think there is a HIGH potential for you to get dragged back into things, and since you will be living there, you won't have anywhere to go. And the longer you stay, the harder it will be to leave.<br /><br />Really think on this one....Mystihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17496508600320205581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post-40744801019565955392014-05-21T23:15:05.899-04:002014-05-21T23:15:05.899-04:00I gotta agree with ND Chic... do you *REALLY* want...I gotta agree with ND Chic... do you *REALLY* want to go 'there' again? Think about this one long & hard...~Carla~https://www.blogger.com/profile/02341057469246030024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7280346434931210633.post-61250490435627004082014-05-21T23:10:24.635-04:002014-05-21T23:10:24.635-04:00I think that it is a bad idea to move on with your...I think that it is a bad idea to move on with your folks. That sounds like a toxic situation. I would look for a studio apartment.Nd.chichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09918828872616125907noreply@blogger.com